McDowell Technical Community College

Life Lessons

The Importance of our Mothers

By Doug Harrell

Our mothers tend to set the tone in our homes as we are growing up and this can make all the difference in the world to our future success or failure.  I think God gives women a special ability to love and care that men were never really created to have, and I do think God designed different roles for each of us to play in marriage.  The man certainly has a role to play that is just as important, but it is different.  Most of the time the woman is the great communicator. Study proves that the average woman will speak around 20,000 words per day while the average man speaks about 7,000 words per day.  Now I prefer to call this communication rather than chatter even though some men might disagree.  This desire to communicate is, I think, a God given gift that allows the mothers to really talk with the husband and the children and keeps the lines of communication open.  I cannot even start to guess how many times in the past 54 years of marriage my lovely wife has said, “talk to me, we never talk”, and I must admit that I am amazed she would say that.  Why we just talked this morning, or last night, or whenever!  I think back over the years of watching Barbara, my wife, confront our children and say, “what is wrong, I know something is bothering you because you are not talking to me”, and I had not noticed it at all!  Bottom line, she would not stop until the child sat down with her and opened up about whatever was bothering them, averting many different challenges that could have happened.

Mothers are the great believers in the children, the encouragers that give them support and faith in themselves.  I can remember many times my mother would sit me down and talk to me about being able to do whatever in life I really wanted to do.  I am blessed that my mother, now 93 years young, has been living with us for the past 6 years and it has been a true blessing.  Her wisdom is still so special and her total faith in God remains unshakeable.  We were having a conversation the other day and she made a statement that was so simple, yet so profound!  She said, “Doug, God did not put us here to quibble and complain, but to build and lift up”!  I have thought about that comment over and over the past month or so and it still makes me really stand still and take notice.

I am writing this article to lift up women, mothers especially, but women in general.  With that said, I must admit that I feel many of the so-called women’s movements today are straight from the devil, evil personified.  Wearing vaginas on their head and singing praises for abortion are not what I see God encouraging in women.  Mothers that let themselves get involved in drugs and things like that are not the image of the woman present in Proverbs 31 vision of a woman.  I pray that women, and mothers especially, take time to read this chapter of Proverbs and pattern their lives in this manner.  Women are not beneath men, in my world, they are on a pedestal, the ones to be admired and looked up to, the ones to be loved and supported.  The ones that the husband should really be willing to lay down his life to protect and support.

Proverbs 31:30-31  Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain; bat a woman that fearth the Lord, she shall be praised.  Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.